Who are you?

Jim Rohn says you are the sum of the five people you hang out the most with. Have you ever actually looked at who you spend your time with? Are they people who inspire you, encourage you, wish you the best? Or are they people who moan, make you feel bad and want you to stay within certain boundaries.

Today, it dawned on me that my circle is in need of a shake up. I am acutely aware that I am out of sorts, I have so many high ambitions of things that I absolutely must get done but there just don’t seem to be enough hours in the day to do them.  As I looked at my core group I realised that as much as there is love there, there isnt really much in the way of support. And I have quietly been stepping further and further away from engaging with them. By doing this I have increasingly found myself isolated, admittedly by my own doing. But realised I do need to ask for help and not simply expect people to offer it!

What happens when you swallow your pride?
So today, I swallowed my pride and reached out to someone to tell them I was overwhelmed and that I didn’t know what to do. Within a few short messages solutions started to flow, a way out was shown to me and the relief poured over me like a wave!

I then reached out to my group and asked if anyone would be able to support me in my vision for Chicks Who Lift and within moments replies started flooding in of support. Today I truly felt the love flow. Of course, if your message is one that people identify with, then people are willing to help.

But I honestly felt so ashamed to be asking, as if as a woman I absolutely HAD to do everything myself. But at the same time I know it’s this mentality that struck me down with chronic fatigue so many times.

In order to strike a balance in life I believe you not only need to ensure the right people are around you but that also you know WHEN to ask for their support. Today, I am so happy I did just that.

So today’s advice for you

There is no shame in asking for help
Have the right people around you, who encourage you
Be willing to be vulnerable
If your message comes from a place of love and not fear people will want to help you for free
Much love folks!